Pick up Japanese Women

Before I start this post, I`d like to state that this post is not about my actions. These are simply things I have observed from others since I first came to Japan two years ago.

Things you should know about first

To a foreigner, Japanese women look much younger than their actual age.  Women who are 30 usually appear to be around 25 or so, or maybe a little younger.  Some of these girls actually look young while others are semi-professional at putting on makeup.  A general rule is to guess their age and add on 4 to 6 years.

Despite what you may have heard, not all Japanese women are looking to bed a foreigner, although many are probably curious.  Most Japanese women aren’t as easy to pick up as you may have heard, but there are definitely many who think hanging around with and dating foreigners is exciting.  For the fashionable girl, dating a foreigner can be a status boost.

Certain foreigners already living in Japan try to have sex with as many Japanese women as they can.  Some Japanese women are well aware of these foreign playboys, so you’ll definitely want to play it cool and nice.

One last thing, Japanese women are generally not interested in foreigners from Asian countries.  Men who are either white or black definitely have the advantage.  Being tall and having blond hair will make it even easier to pick up.

Places to meet

Eikaiwas (English schools):  Many Japanese people learn English for a variety of reasons, maybe for their work, travel or maybe even just for a social chat.  Some younger Japanese women also study because they want to meet foreigners like you as an extra bonus.  English schools have always and will always be a great place to pick up Japanese women.

If you are a playboy, chasing too many girls in your English school is not recommended as word will definitely spread as many of the students are already friends.  Once the word is out, things won’t go as smoothly as they once did.

Gaijin (foreigner) bars:  Many foreigners and Japanese women who speak moderate to excellent English often gather in gaijin bars for a good time and so are great places to pick up.  The Japanese women in foreigner bars are there for two reasons - to practice English conversation and to meet foreigners.  Whether it be true love or just an excuse to practice English, a new foreigner will always receive attention.

Learn Japanese

If you already know Japanese, great!  Very few foreigners living in Japan can speak decent Japanese.  Most can only say a few words even after living in the country for a year or so.  By communicating in Japanese, you will definitely leave an impression and picking up will be so much easier.  Not to mention you’ll be able to talk with every Japanese woman and not just the ones that speak English.

If you can’t speak Japanese or at the most, very little…don’t worry.  Now’s the time to start learning some basics and use some simple lines.  Simply by trying to speak Japanese, even if it’s only a little is a great way to impress Japanese women in a gaijin bar and will keep the conversation rolling if you feel it’s starting to die.  Talking about language difficulties will instantly create common ground and creates a good opportunity to put forward the idea of meeting again sometime for some “language exchange.”

Put your name down at the local community centre

Every city has a community centre which holds language and cultural classes that regularly invite foreigners and Japanese to attend.  Classes such as flower arrangement, Japanese cooking and etiquette are not just for the elderly.  Any Japanese women attending will definitely be interested in the foreigner who just walked in the door.

In addition to classes, there is also a pin board where you can write on a small piece of paper pretty much anything which comes to mind, such as wanting to buy or sell a bicycle or even expressing interest in a language exchange.  Just write something brief about yourself and include your cell phone and/or email address.  Make sure you omit the fact that you’re only interested in women and looking to pick up.  Usually within a day or two, someone who is hopefully drop-dead sexy should reply.

Facebook

Many younger Japanese women already use Mixi, which is the Japanese version of Facebook.  Facebook is more fun than regular email and is a great first step into seducing a Japanese woman you have your eyes set on.  Create a Facebook group such as a cycling or tennis club and ask her and others if they wish to join.  From here you can easily organise opportunities to meet which will seem less like a date.  A friend I once knew used this tactic and it worked brilliantly.

Do the Karaoke

Whenever you think of karaoke, which country instantly springs to mind?  Of course it’s Japan and almost everyone in Japan loves to sing karaoke so why not join in?  It’s a great place to strut-the-strut and show everyone your fun and vibrant nature.  After having dinner and drinks at an izakaya with a group of friends, a karaoke session is almost certain and virtually unavoidable.  After a full tank of alcohol and some dancing beats, heading home with a hot Japanese babe is certainly within your reach.

Be the “nice guy”

As I mentioned earlier, many Japanese women are aware of the playboy attitude amongst many foreigners living in Japan.  Dress smartly and avoid a style that in anyway would depict a playboy.  Be polite and aware of the differences within a Japanese society.  Be a gentlemen and not a sleaze-ball.

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